A narcissistic mother’s abuse of her children does not magically stop when the kids turn 18. In fact, it actually seems to amplify, as those kids begin to tentatively nudge their way out from under her noxious thumb.
Instead of celebrating and encouraging their burgeoning independence, she grinds down harder, deliberately erodes their confidence, and ultimately badmouths them and spreads childish rumors about them if they still choose to remove themselves from her repugnancy.
Essentially, when a child takes a stand and demonstrates any desire to not be a lying, mooching, batshit-crazy piece of shit like her, she pitches a toddler-style tantrum, resorts to grade-school retaliation tactics due to her emotional retardation, and regresses even further as a parent, a person, a human being.
She chooses to be this way. It is unfathomable, but she favors slithering over growing.
She will not tolerate the children being better than that, better than her, so she holds their heads under the filth and drowns them in her obscenity. She wants to destroy them, snuff out any part of them that is happy, caring, free, ambitious, independent…and not like her.
That is not a mother. At best, that is a stretched-out, shameless, foul incubator. That is a middle-aged loser whose parents pay her bills, cosset her, and supply her with a dingy trailer because she is too useless to even acquire that on her own.
No wonder narcissists lie so much. When you are undeniably worthless, fanciful lies must be so much more appealing than the truth.
Sweat & Sparkle 
Me thinks that this is about the older son. Me thinks maybe he might need to perform an Ectomy of his mom out of his life. He has obviously started to see her for the heifer that she is. Easier said than done though I understand.
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She is definitely a toxin in their lives. Hell, she is a toxin to anyone she comes in contact with, but the kids deserve so much better than what they were dealt as a so-called mother.
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So sad. Just because one gives birth, it doesn’t mean they can be a good parent. Thank goodness the kids are getting old enough that they can leave that hell hole. She is so bitter about being left she takes it out the kids. I am sure it was hard to have 4 kids, but it isn’t like their father is a dead beat Dad. He is involved. And thank God he is! Otherwise they would have zilch. My mother wasn’t cut out for motherhood either but she sucked it up & did what was needed. That hag didn’t even try. Hang in there. Those kids will need you.
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