My husband works hard. He has a manual labor job, repairing homes, so he works in the heat, the cold, the rain, and he often comes home dirty, decorated with wayward paint or caulk or various other chemicals and concoctions. He’s been known to strip down in the garage so he doesn’t drag any of the day’s dust or dirt through the house on his way to the shower.
The other day, my car was gracious enough to wait until I had coasted into our driveway after work to decide it suddenly wasn’t going to start anymore. I told my husband I would have it towed the next morning to the mechanic, but he was already getting up. I knew he was tired as hell. I knew having to fix one more thing that evening was not on his list of eagerly anticipated activities. But without hesitation, he got up and said, “Let’s take a look.”
Yesterday he drove me to work, then went to work himself, knowing he had my car waiting for him after he got home. When he picked me up from work, he said he was almost finished with it.
I went inside the house to feed my cat and drop my purse in our bedroom. Before I headed back outside, I paused, because I could see my husband through the window. He was already sprawled beneath my car, legs jutting out, arms up, hard at work, and I just watched him for a moment, with a rush of tenderness.
My husband has been attacked, gossiped about, badmouthed, all by people who could never hope to be even half the person he is. I suspect they know that, too. He is the most honest and giving person I have ever met. I know he was tired and sore from work, but he didn’t think twice about jumping straight in to fix my car. He saw that I needed something. That was all that he needed to know.
I went outside, and he was getting to his feet. He smiled and said, “Just finishing up.”
When I slid into the driver’s seat for the moment of truth, I whispered to my car, “Please start.” It was going to be dark soon, and even though my husband looked worn out, I knew he would keep plugging away until he figured out what was wrong.
My husband stood at the front of the popped-up hood, watching the engine as if he could mentally will it to start, and said, “Give it a try.”
I turned the key, and…VROOM! My car fired right up as if there had never been a problem. I patted the steering wheel and smiled.
Today, after I got to work, he texted me to ask how the car is doing. I told him it was running just fine.
He had actually apologized for taking so long to fix it. That made me a little sad. I think he became so used to being mistreated in the past that he doesn’t even realize how amazing he is.
But I know. And I will spend the rest of my days making sure he knows, too, and believes it, with all his beautiful, thoughtful, gentle heart.