Just curious: at what point does a narcissist finally admit she is failing miserably as a parent? Is it after her child is failing two classes at the same time? Or maybe three? Is it after seven consecutive zeros in not one, but two, classes? Or will it take this child failing the entire grade, being held back, dropping out of school?
Probably not even then. Admitting failure would require giving a damn about the child in the first place, and that is not going to happen.
Perhaps now is a good time to extricate one’s head from one’s ass and start acting like a parent. Ah, even as I type it, I know it will never happen. I’ve had over a decade of observation to know exactly what happens next. For once, I truly wish I was wrong. But I have a hunch I won’t be.
Sweat & Sparkle 
My heart is with you and your husband…and your step kids!!!! But like you, we know she will never be a good mother…although we continue to hope!!!
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As sad as it is, that woman will never wise up. I feel so terrible for the kids. It isn’t much, but I will pray things will get better.
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