Happy New Year!

Fun fact: did you know that you can pull a muscle in your chest if you cough hard enough?  Unfortunately, I now know this from experience.  My diet lately has consisted largely of another round of antibiotics, prescription cough medicines, Nquil, and decongestants.  Yum, right?

I attempted to start working out again, but I only managed a few days at best, light walking.  My body is so worn out, beaten down, and exhausted from not sleeping and from being sick that even that took some effort.  I am definitely back at square one with workouts.  Maybe even negative square, ha ha.

Despite my feeble exercise efforts, my weigh-in yesterday was another gain, this time of 2 pounds.  Being sick this long (heading into week #4) and then gaining for the second week in a row was discouraging, to say the least.

When I told my husband about the gain, he said to cut myself some slack.  He reminded me I’ve been very sick for weeks, and that I’ve had a steady supply of antibiotics and medicines of all sorts, and unable to really exercise on top of all that.

I know all of that is true, but seeing the number creep steadily up instead of down is frustrating and nerve-wracking.  I am definitely not ending this year where I wanted to be.  And while being sick certainly hasn’t helped matters any, I can’t blame the last few weeks for being so far from my goal.  It’s been a few months of inconsistency that led me to this point.

So here we are, New Year’s Eve of 2017, and I am finishing another year, not reaching my goal of hitting goal weight.  But I am sitting here, listening to my husband and kids in the other room, laughing, chattering, carrying on, and I just heard one of the kids ask where I am.  So I am far from being in a bad place.

Especially in light of some of the things happening lately in the kids’ other home, I am grateful and happy that we have a loud, wild, stable, active household full of love and laughter.  We have noise-makers for the evening (not that this crew needs any help making noise), sparklers, champagne glasses, warm blankets to snuggle up as we wait for the new year, and cream soda for the little ones so they can join in a bubbly toast at midnight.

So I am not ending this year down on myself or unhappy with where I am.  I am not at my goal yet, but I will get there.  In the meantime, I have a family eagerly waiting for me, and from the sounds of it, a wound-up husband who is the worst-behaved child in the house!

Happy new year from our family to yours!

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Sniffle, Cough, Sniffle

*Sniffle*

*Cough*

Just when I thought I was nearly over this illness from hell, my fever came back with a vengeance, and I started practically coughing my head right off my shoulders.  Just in time for Christmas, yay!  My husband and I had made plans for Christmas Eve, and I was stubbornly planning to stick to it, sick or not, but he pointed out that going out of town meant being pretty far away from my doctor or the hospital if I took a turn for the worst.  So, begrudgingly, I agreed we should stay home.

We still had a good time.  He had the idea to move furniture so we could “camp out” and sleep under the Christmas tree together, and it was a lot of fun.  We stayed up late, talking until we could barely keep our eyes open, then snuggled under the covers with the tree lights dancing above us.  I fell asleep with my head on his shoulder, peaceful and happy.

The kids arrived yesterday.  Since I was home sick from work, I got to watch them open their presents and then spend the day with them and my husband.

As usual, there is quite a bit of turmoil at their other home, more than usual right now, but they seem to be doing okay with it.  They just seem to be worn out from it and  relieved to be with us, to take a break from the upheaval and mess.  It made me feel even more determined to make sure they have stability and feel security with us.  They need it.

I am back on another round of medications to try to chase out this cough, and it seems to finally be helping.   I am glad the kids are home with us and are able to enjoy some peace for a few days.  The only time I know for sure they are safe and are okay is when they are with us, so it’s a relief for me too.  I’m looking forward to New Year’s Eve and celebrating with my family…and seeing which of us can make it to midnight!

Big ‘Ol Gain

I weigOMG Scalehed in a day early, yesterday morning, expecting a maintain at the worst.  Instead, I nearly passed out and fell off the scale: a gain of 4.8 pounds!  Whoa!  You’d think I was getting paid to gain weight.  I was horrified.  Still am.

I really didn’t think I did that bad this past week.  I didn’t work out much, thanks to traveling and being sick and not able to breathe, but I wasn’t pigging out either.  I don’t know if it was maybe the antibiotics, the cough syrup, all the decongestants and antihistamines, Nyquil…my poor body has been fed a steady diet of cold medicines and medical concoctions for at least two weeks.  Hell, I feel like it could be 5 pounds’ worth of excess snot!  (Sorry, I know that’s gross, but after two weeks of not being able to breathe, this is way past getting old.)

Yesterday I managed a light, easy 30-minute workout, then worked in the yard for a few hours, raking and bagging leaves, pulling weeds, trimming plants damaged from frost.  Today I hit the gym for the first time in weeks and took the elliptical for a spin, then came home and cleaned the house.  I don’t count cleaning on my workout chart, but I vacuumed, swept, mopped, scrubbed the sinks and showers, and polished up our wood floors.  That surely counts for something!

I went grocery shopping early this morning, before the crazy Christmas crowd had time to get there and clog the aisles, so I have some healthy snacks ready to go.  I am not ready to leap into high-intensity workouts or go all-out just yet, since I am not 100% healthy yet, but my cough has slowed down enough to allow light workouts, so I will focus on being consistent with that this week and hopefully see a loss next Saturday.

Not an Excuse

Reason Not ExcuseI came across this quote while I was putting together a mini motivational poster for our workout room.  It really hit a nerve.

I have four stepkids, and I have always been an active stepmom, long before my husband and I got married.  I don’t see a point to half-assing anything.  I’m either in or out of the kids’ lives, and if I’m in, I’m all in.  I have been at my husband’s side for school events, sporting events, church, teacher conferences, awards ceremonies, you name it.

A parent’s job is to raise strong kids who grow into independent, thoughtful, productive adults.  I worry about the kids all the time, especially when our efforts to build them up are deliberately and routinely torn down by others.

The kids are only with us sometimes.  They also live with their egg donor, Psycho.  More than once, the kids have sadly made a comment to me, usually while watching me get ready to leave for the gym or while I’m working out at home, like “Mom says she doesn’t have time to work out.  She says she’s too busy taking care of us” or some variant of her “losing herself” when she had kids, or when she got married, or some other occasion that should be celebrated as a happy time of her life, not an opportunity to pawn guilt onto the kids, or an ex-husband who was forced to escape her.

Having kids changes your life, no doubt about it.  My world was shaken up, tossed around, and rearranged until I didn’t recognize it, when I met my husband and the kids.  I had a choice to either fly solo and continue with life as I knew it, or accept that my life is now far more about four children than it is about me.

Of course it’s different being a stepmom than the one who gave birth.  But all of the kids are old enough now that the timeframe for using the kids as an excuse for extra weight has long expired, anyway.  And that’s not what my post is about.  I get that being pregnant adds baby weight and changes your body, even if I’ve never experienced it personally.  The pressure to lose that weight as fast as humanly possible, at the expense of all else,  is patently absurd.  Over a decade later, however, that topic is no longer relevant.

I’m talking about using the kids as a lame excuse for remaining overweight.  The kids have mentioned it enough times that it is obvious they hear it from Psycho ad nauseam.  She is overweight because of them.  It’s not her fault, it’s theirs.  She would have time for exercise if it wasn’t for them.  (Apparently she’d be a fitness model if it wasn’t for them, to hear her talk.)

It’s so ridiculous that it would be laughable if it didn’t hurt the kids’ feelings so deeply.  Psycho had no job for at least half of this past year, with eight hours a day wide open while the kids were in school.  She has no adult responsibilities, since her daddy pays all her bills, so are we really supposed to believe she had no time for workouts?  Please.

But the kids don’t logically rationalize it out like that.  They accept the blame, completely and unquestioningly, and they feel guilty for…what?  Being born?  Existing?  That is disgustingly unfair.

I am overweight.  I don’t deny it.  I also don’t blame my husband or kids for it.  They don’t cram food down my throat or tie me to a chair so I can’t work out.  It would be convenient to blame them, but I make plenty of bad choices all on my own and don’t need any help in that department!  I would never foist responsibility for my poor decisions onto the kids, who have absolutely nothing to do with it.

In fact, it should be the opposite: the kids should be my (and others’) motivation, not a cheap and easy excuse.  The kids were so proud of me when I was losing weight and getting into shape before the wedding.  It was a huge motivation for me.  I am ashamed that I let that go.  I need to get back at it, let them see that I didn’t give up, that they are a momentous reason I want to push forward and work hard.  I want them to feel positive and proud, happy and confident, and see that they are a shining star, a bright spark, for me.  05090b7bab03906486566596baea03b7d0dcaf-retina-thumbnail-large

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